When children feel loved in their homes, this reflects how they treat other people. By making sure parents foster a healthy relationship, they guide their children to become the best versions of themselves.
Hurt people hurt people. People who grew up with a bad familial disposition or those exposed to an unpleasant environment are likely to develop negative relationships with others. Worse, they grow up tolerating being poorly treated by others. This is why society places importance on social etiquette. From a young age, people have been guided on interacting appropriately and building healthy relationships to avoid hurting and being hurt by others.
A book by Ted Landkammer shows what can happen when children are treated and taught well – they can connect and create relationships with other people. In his book, Ted narrates the story of two children who befriend a kind stranger while playing with the poppies on the hill in the spring. Such a simple interaction was able to produce a great relationship, which is an essential ability for children to help them strive in a social environment.
How can children develop this kind of social competence anyway?
The first and most effective way is to influence them through the comforts of their homes. Children who grow up in positive familial relationships feel secure and loved, which results in them treating others kindly as they reflect how they are treated.
What encompasses a positive familial relationship?
A healthy family is a cohesive family despite continuous changes. As the family ages and its members’ perspectives change, a healthy family adjusts well to cater to these changes, not letting them affect their relationship. Additionally, a healthy family is composed of members who aren’t afraid to openly communicate matters, including their praises down to their distastes, recognizing that this communication can only bring them closer. How does one foster a healthy relationship?
Communication is always a vital factor in keeping relationships healthy. It helps people avoid misunderstandings which, in turn, helps them avoid massive conflicts. Forging communication skills is especially essential for children who are still learning to navigate the world. Parents should encourage and teach them how to communicate healthily. This means encouraging and supporting them as they talk about anything. Still, at the same time, it also means teaching them to safeguard their boundaries and explaining how it’s okay to avoid sharing matters that make them uncomfortable.
Never Assume Matters
Being understood can influence so much of how people interact with the world. This is especially essential within the family — with whom people spend most of their time. To build a healthy and strong relationship, members need to ask and clarify what each other thinks and feels. Many have been wronged simply because others assumed what they were thinking and feeling – and it is never a pleasant experience.
Additionally, by asking children their sentiments and opinions and encouraging them to make their own decisions by asking them what they want to do, parents instill character and teach them to be critical thinkers, both essential in their development.
As family members start pursuing their endeavors, misunderstanding and differences occur inevitably. With this, members should learn to discuss these misunderstandings and forgive one another; only then will things get settled. However, while forgiveness is essential, it should also be clarified that nobody is obligated to forgive – knowing this is just as important as forgiveness. If one believes the situation has negatively affected them and cannot heal simply from an apology, they shouldn’t be pressured to forgive. This practice helps children keep boundaries and avoid invalidating their feelings by forcing them to overlook things that hurt them.
If children aren’t taught to apologize and forgive, this fosters a culture of fear or anger. This makes them afraid to commit mistakes and confront conflicts, which affect how they solve them. Instead of proactively asking for forgiveness, they might grow up avoiding solving issues through this.
Set Clear Family Principles
As time progress, family members get more clarity about what works and what doesn’t in their family. This includes the rules and family policies they need to follow and adhere to. When people continue to learn about themselves – what they’re comfortable and not comfortable with – this leads to their family adjusting themselves and changing their behaviors concerning these changes.
Why is it essential to foster a healthy family relationship?
Leading the family to have a healthy relationship is one of the parents’ best things to leave their children with. This can also stand as the best example of how they should treat their future families and other people in relationships, thus equipping them with helpful information. Additionally, as a healthy familial relationship fosters a nurturing environment, this greatly influences children’s development such as their social skills, cognitive development – creating more successful individuals – and emotional intelligence. Lastly, as it’s the first environment they are exposed to, whatever happens in the family setting can help determine what children will tolerate as they grow and navigate the world. If they grew up with bad and hostile relationships at home, there’s no telling what they might tolerate as they grow older.